It's so easy for us parents to see and point out the bad things and the things our kids shouldn't be doing but so hard to pick out her small successes that don't involve learning new words or tricks. Maxine has always been an anxious child when it comes to strangers and strange places. I think I didn't help the situation by being an over protective mom. From what I've read one way to ease her anxiety is for her to have more confidence and for her to have more confidence she has to learn to do things on her own. Thats why I started potty training her already, I wanted her to learn to become more independent in her everyday life. "Makine eat rice sariili" was what she told me the other day. She also soaps her self while taking a bath and can put on her underwear, socks and shoes on her own, IF she wants to.
|busy bear at uncle brian's house|
I also make the mistake of keeping things from her because i'm afraid that if I told her where we're going and what's going to happen she will just keep saying "ayaw". She already says that to things she likes, what more to the unknown. But now that she knows to ask me "san tayo punta?" I don't have a choice anymore and I tell her and I explain who will be there and what we're going to do. The interviewer said that its better she knows what to expect so she can deal with it beforehand. Sometimes I don't explain because I don't think she'd understand but I vow not to underestimate her anymore. The explaining really works, her yaya went out last month and Maxine didn't really react much to it because we kept telling her days before that Ate is going to go out but will come home at night. So now I keep telling her that she's going to go to school soon and that mommy and ate won't be there inside with her. I hope she accepts that easily too.
I'm glad i learned something yesterday about how to improve on my child's confidence. I hope to work on it everyday until school starts so her transition won't be too hard on her. Crossing my fingers and toes!